Hello Reader! The busier we get, the easier it is to say, "I don't have time for that!" But what are we really giving up? MEET THE AVOIDER I added a sixth protective pattern this month. For a long time Feel Change Build had five: the Over-Achiever, the People Pleaser, the Controller, the Invisible, and the Hyper-Independent. I liked five. Five is tidy. Five fits on a graphic. But I kept running into people the five did not describe. Smart, capable people who were not burning out, not...
15 days agoย โขย 5 min read
Hello Reader! The discussion women should be having about AI shouldn't be about if, but when. And when is now. I've been using AI to vibe-code apps that I never thought possible. Apps that can protect my personal privacy, grow my business, and teach my kids. Through LLMs, we have access the largest research library ever known, and women are missing out because they feel guilty using it or fear it. But this technology is going on with or without us. We are important in shaping not only its...
22 days agoย โขย 4 min read
Hello Reader! After having my prayers answered in the most roundabout way, I'm convinced I'm here to learn patience. And both books I'm currently reading, Big Trust by Dr. Shadรฉ Zahrai and Fayรงal Sekkouah, and Wisdom Untethered by Michael A. Singer, focus on having patience with not only yourself but with the world around you. I love reading books that come to the same problem from different directions, one from science and one from faith. I don't really see why we have such a hard time...
29 days agoย โขย 9 min read
Hello Reader! "The key to self-mastery is self-forgetting." - Abdu'l-Bahรก In Big Trust by Shade Zahrai and Faycal Sekkouah, the founder of the Baha'i Faith is quoted. When we focus on ourselves, we worry about what others think and if we're not good enough. When we focus on what we are doing and bringing to the world, we forget about ourselves, therefore enabling us to be our best selves. Think about it: when great athletes are in the zone, they aren't thinking about how they look or how...
about 2 months agoย โขย 5 min read
Hello Reader! I'm thinking of all the teachers out there as we go back to school and how much I appreciate their hard work. I'm so grateful that they chose their profession and think we could all benefit from being more like them. TEACHING IS THE GREATEST ACT OF OPTIMISM "Teaching is the greatest act of optimism." - Colleen Wilcox Back to school season has a particular energy to it that I don't think ever fully leaves us even after our own school days are long behind us. Something about the...
about 2 months agoย โขย 7 min read
Hello Reader! Halloween decorations in July are training us to skip the present. Here's the science of savoring and why this imperfect summer is worth receiving. HOW TO SAVOR THE REST OF SUMMER The back to school supplies are already being pushed aside for Halloween decorations at my local store. In July. I know I'm not alone in finding this mildly unhinged. And every year I have the same reaction: can we please just be where we are for five minutes before we're asked to be somewhere else?...
3 months agoย โขย 7 min read
Hello Reader! Choosing to flourish when the world seems designed to prevent it isn't naive. It might be the most radical thing we can do. Here's why. FLOURISHING PART FIVE: Flourishing as Resistance We started this series with a plant. Lush leaves, juicy fruit, perfect conditions. The plant model of flourishing is clean and intuitive and it breaks immediately when you apply it to human beings, because humans do something plants cannot do. We choose. We make meaning. We decide, in the space...
3 months agoย โขย 7 min read
Hello Reader! The most damaging thing we've handed the next generation might not be a broken world. It might be the idea that they have to wait for it to be fixed. FLOURISHING PART FOUR: The Trap What if the most damaging thing we've handed the next generation isn't a broken economy or a destabilized climate or a culture war that never ends? What if it's the idea that they have to wait for all of that to get better before their real life can start? I want to be careful with this one. Because...
3 months agoย โขย 6 min read
Hello Reader! Viktor Frankl spent 40 years asking us to apply what he learned to our ordinary lives. Here's what that actually means for your Thursday. FLOURISHING PART THREE: Viktor Frankl, Meaning, and Our Ordinary Thursday Viktor Frankl was a psychiatrist who survived four Nazi concentration camps and came out the other side having developed one of the most important psychological frameworks of the twentieth century. Today we're not going to compare our lives to what he survived. We're...
3 months agoย โขย 5 min read